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Revelations in New York – Getting Deep

Revelations in New York – Getting Deep

Ok guys…today is not going to be your typical DIY or design type of post. I am moving past the superficial and getting down on a deeper level with you.

So in case you haven’t been following along, last week I spent a few days in New York to attend the Better Homes and Gardens “BHG Stylemaker” celebration. “Stylemaker” is a title given to select bloggers and influencers (in design, fashion, culinary arts and lifestyle content), which Better Homes and Gardens reserves to those they acknowledge to be a source of inspiration for their brand and magazine (a major milestone in the blogging community) bear with me, til I get to the juicy stuff

In another post, I will be sure to give you the full recap of the event itself, but today I just want to share with you some of the revelations that occurred for me at the event and in recent days. So let me just get it all out there.

First off, I believe God (or the universe if you will) facilitates everything in my life so that I remain honest and humble. The days leading up to what should have been a glorious, glamorous day,  transpired into a shit storm of sorts.

Not to whine, but my mojo/swagger was definitely getting effed up by the minutiae of everyday life: our air unit died in 90 degree weather, my son fractured his arm 2 days prior to me leaving, the night we were supposed to fly out I cut my finger on a can of freaking green beans and had to return to the ER to get stitches, the engine in my car began smoking and then went kaput… really couldn’t make this shit up.

Keep in mind, I am a work-from-home mother of a one-year-old and a three-year-old ; therefore my life is anything but glamorous- I rarely attend swanky events and I am painfully shy. So as one might gather, I really didn’t need anything effing with my mojo on my big day, but unfortunately I arrived to the event completely sleep deprived, frazzled and with an eyesore of a bandage on my index finger as I shook the hands of  BH&G editors and bloggers I had admired for years (these people are basically celebrities to me as I don’t watch much TV). I was definitely the new kid on the block …add to that,  the socially awkward klutz.

comfortable outfits for New York City

Nonetheless, I had a major revelation while one of the keynote speakers, a branding guru who actually re-branded Better Homes and Gardens and Real Simple magazine, shared the concept of one of his inceptions, a smaller home decor magazine. He revealed that this particular magazine was conceived for those who “were tired of soul-less McMansions”. Cue the lightbulb moment in my frazzled brain

Not to bash anyone else, but nowadays it seems blogging has evolved into a side-project for wealthy people with glamorous lives to halfheartedly dabble with. I dont know about you, but all of the perfection… and the designer clothing… and the soul-less McMansions… are getting to be all too much for someone not dwelling in that sort of lifestyle. That is not my reality and after a while, it can really f$%k with your head….priorities can definitely get out of whack..

So, my promise to those of you reading my blog is to demonstrate how someone like me- socially awkward, exhausted with motherhood and very much middle class,  can still live the most beautiful version of their life possible….

You can design an amazing room using Craigslist scores,  thrifted accents and cheap swag from Homegoods. You don’t have to wear designer clothes to look like a badass bitch (and you can flaunt that mama pooch proudly). Motherhood, at times, can suck major ass….it is not as glamorous and darling as all of these Insta-moms make it out to be.

Essentially, life is not a cake walk …especially when you are middle class living in a society that values one’s ability to collect and invest wealth  much more than that of a stay-at-home mother responsible for nurturing and developing the lives of other tiny human beings (no wonder the world is so effed up!). And while life is not easy, it can still be pretty damn beautiful and amazing. You have the power to create a fabulous life., and I want to help facilitate that with my content.

comfy fashion for traveling

Notice I am not referring solely to DIY and decor, because I feel I have so much more to offer you guys (and to be honest, we have already gone over budget with the remodel of our fixer upper (not to mention my engine and A/C unit going kaput and the numerous trips to the ER). Hence, I am going to have to get super creative with my remodel projects!

Basically, this compilation of word diarrhea is to define my mission to you as a blogger and as a human being. I am so fatigued with BS and I want to try to remain as genuine and honest as possible with you guys.

To those of you reading this: Please, stop comparing yourselves to the plethora of insta-celebs out there. Remember: they have nannies,  personal assistants, florists, interior designers and photographers – all who enable them to show you an unattainable version of life.

Not me, friends. I have to work hard for everything I have (and occasionally I do lose my sanity over it).  But in the broader scope, I feel I am on the road to being the best version of me, and that’s a pretty awesome feeling.

When you are on your death bed, with life flashing before your eyes, are you going to really care about that designer handbag, or how many instagram followers you’ve accrued or what car you drive? Probably not. Let’s keep our priorities straight.

So….cheers to mama pooches, TJ Maxx clothing, Craigslist furniture and keeping it real, bitches!

And in light of the horrendous Vegas situation, I cannot really find any words of my own,  but these lyrics really resonate….

vibrating with love and light
Pulsating with love and light 
In a world gone mad, a world gone mad
There must be something more than this 


PS. I promise to return next time with more helpful content and also a recap of the actual Stylemaker event.



My journey in interior design and home improvement began with transforming my first fixer-upper home, all while managing a budget and raising two young boys. My work, a reflection of my passion for creating beautiful, uplifting spaces, has been recognized by top publications like Better Homes and Gardens Magazine, HGTV, and more. I invite you to explore my site and witness the transformation of my home and the vibes we've designed.Read more...


Tuesday 10th of October 2017

My sweet sweet friend I so needed to hear this! You and I were best friends in another life :) It is so easy to get caught up in "keeping up" and I am guilty of it myself. You couldn't have been more spot on about the mc-mansions and it is so hard not to hold yourself to the same standard but here to keeping it real!

Designing Vibes

Tuesday 10th of October 2017

Haha! Thank you for always being so awesome, love!

Angie Lombardi

Monday 9th of October 2017

This post just brought me back down to earth. Thank you!!! Love your style and outlook! I have 2 crazy little boys, and I so needed this reality check!

Designing Vibes

Monday 9th of October 2017

That is so good to hear, Angie. Being a mother is exhausting. Throw in the added and unnecessary pressure from social media, and it can feel impossible. Thank you so much for the support, friend!

Pamela Ellis Moss

Sunday 8th of October 2017

You look so much like your grandma Jo who I lived down the street from on Euclid Circle. Your mom was a baby and doesn't remember how much I enjoyed playing with her! Thanks for keeping it real and making me feel better about the eclectic choices I have made over the years from real artists to Pier 1, trying to put it together in a way that children (now grown) didn't destroy it, but yet felt like a place that real people lived and not a showroom. Enjoyed your blog!

Designing Vibes

Monday 9th of October 2017

I miss my grandma so much, Pamela! That is so flattering. Thank you so much for stopping by and taking the time to show my blog some love. It means so much. xoxo


Sunday 8th of October 2017

You go girl!! This is what it's all about Erica! Thanks for keeping it real and helping us all to remember the important things. I remember when I first found your blog I was so in awe of your designing talent and then I read a post about your grandmother and that really put a smile on my face. It made me want to come back for the long haul cause I realized you were not just another pretty face. I think to be good at blogging you have to be willing to go out on a limp and make that real connection with your readers! And that is exactly what you have been doing for a long time but especially here. Thank you sweet, real Erica!! <3

Designing Vibes

Monday 9th of October 2017

Mary, Thank you for being the beautiful person that you are. You have no idea how your encouragement has helped me through out my blogging journey.

Penny Jones

Saturday 7th of October 2017

Yes, yes, and YES! It is soooo easy to get sucked into thinking we need bigger and better. Thank you for your honesty!

Designing Vibes

Saturday 7th of October 2017

Thank you so much for the encouragement, Penny! I appreciate it more than you know.